Who are you?
Can you answer this question without referring to your sex, race, credentials, occupation, income, political viewpoints, place of birth, place of residence, family, spouse and/or siblings?
Most people can’t. And I couldn't either until recently.
I had one major goal when I graduated college: to change the world through fashion. Well, two goals. The second goal was to pay off my student loan debt by my 30th birthday.
Everything I've done after college has been in pursuit of those two goals.
I defined myself as a fashion designer, and after I put my men's fashion company on hold two years ago, I started to feel incomplete. I started to feel lost.
I've been in a transition period of waiting on God to tell me what's next for a couple years now, and I've been struggling with this question: who am I?
"I have a few things that I'm pretty good at, but I don’t have any special talents," I keep thinking to myself. "I know I was born to do great things, but I don't know what those things are."
But are "things" really what defines you? No.
"I'm still single and in my late 20's," another thought that's been crossing my mind a lot lately.
But are you defined by whether you're married or not? Absolutely not.
There may be times when you feel like you're doing something wrong because your life doesn’t look like what the world says happiness and success should look like. And if you aren’t careful, you can get consumed with who the world says you are instead of who God says you are.
For years, I let the people put me in a title prison. I walked around with a smile on my face, but on the inside, I was drowning.
My goal was to make a difference in the world—to do something that matters. Fashion was just one vehicle to help me do that. Why couldn’t anyone see the woman behind the fashion?
I’ll never forget a conversation I had with a friend in college. She was a business major and I, of course, was a fashion design major.
One day, she joked and asked, “What do fashion majors get graded on…drawing?”
My friend was joking, but deep down inside I knew she felt that fashion majors didn’t do any “real” work. A very naïve thought if you ask me.
Ever since then, I wanted to prove to the world that I could do something meaningful with fashion, but I have nothing to prove to anyone. And neither do you.
God looks at your heart and doesn’t base "success" on your works.
But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." — 1 Samuel 16:7
Our identity cannot be found in titles, our accomplishments, how much money we make, or in other people. Our identity can only be found in God as we learn to live for Him.
For a long time, I struggled with feeling empty. I knew I had a purpose greater than just business and fashion. Don't get me wrong, I love everything about fashion and entrepreneurship, but my love for God is greater.
I found my identity in Jesus. People think that you have to lose who you are to follow Him, but you don't—you become who you are. You become who God created you to be.
One of my favorite stories in the Bible is about Ruth. And yes, I'm a little bias because my middle name is Ruth.
Ruth was a widow who had nothing and left her people to follow her mother-in-law, Naomi, back to her homeland. "Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God," she said in Ruth 1:16.
Ruth didn't let the world define her. Instead, she followed God and humbly did what she needed to do to take care of her mother-in-law, which wasn't even her responsibility.
She may have left everything familiar to her when she went to Naomi's homeland, but God rewarded her faithfulness, hard work, and virtue.
God wants you to be successful and prosperous in all areas of your life. And He equips you with everything you need to do so as you yield to His will. That's the key though—doing His will, not your own.
The Maggie who was once only defined as a fashion designer is gone.
So, who am I? Truthfully, I'm whoever God needs me to be. It's been a challenge, to say the least, and I'm still learning to completely trust God on a daily basis.
On Sunday's, I'm the worship leader at my grandma's church—only God knows about that one because I'm not a singer. And during the week, God has me occupied with completely different assignments.
Every day is different and has a new set of challenges. And I've been doing a lot of waiting. A LOT of waiting, but God is at work in me. I'm far from the person I used to be (thank God!), and I can only imagine what He's preparing me for.
That’s my story and I’m sticking to it! So now, I challenge you to answer this question: who are you?
Have you found your identity in Christ? What does finding your identity in Christ mean to you? Talk to me...I'd love to hear your thoughts. Head on over to the discussions page, and I look forward to hearing from you.
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You were born to do great things. Trust God. He knows what's best :).