When I was a kid, I struggled with insecurities about my looks.
I couldn't stand my teeth, my eyes, my forehead, or how skinny I was — those were the things that so-called friends would often tease me about.
So, I turned to fashion to hide my insecurities. It was a way to get people to focus on the way I dressed, instead of on what they considered my imperfections.
When I was 14-years-old, I got my first job at Dunkin' Donuts just so I could buy extra clothes and shoes. Fashion became my high and a necessary part of my life.
Naturally, as I got older, I was attracted to guys who took pride in their appearance. But, I soon realized that many of them were as insecure as I was. And no amount of nice clothes can hide who the person is behind the clothes.
There's a scene in the movie, The Pursuit of Happyness, where Will Smith goes into an interview with a wife beater and jeans on, and paint marks all over him. He was dressed in "bummy" attire, but his confidence won him the internship.
That scene is so awesome because it reminds us that who we are inside is more important than what we wear. And yes, this is coming from someone who loves to dress up.
"But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at his physical stature, because I have refused him. For the Lord does not see as man sees; for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
— Samuel 16:7
I love fashion so I would be lying if I said that I think your physical appearance doesn't matter. It does when it comes to the perception you are giving off by what you wear.
People wear nice suits to an interview with a company that has a business attire culture so they can be perceived as a good fit for that company. And a man (or woman) who normally dresses down, usually will step his/her game up for a date to give a good first impression.
In many instances, your physical appearance does matter, but the truth is, it doesn't matter to God.
Have you ever wondered why the Bible is silent on the physical characteristics of Jesus? I believe it's so we can focus on His teaching and not be distracted by the irrelevant details of how he looked.
I mean, let's think about this ... if Jesus was "drop dead gorgeous" and dressed in the finest clothes, he would've drawn a lot of attention to himself for the wrong reasons. And it might be hard for most of us to relate to Him.
We would say things like, "Well, yeah, he was human, but he was also good-looking and always dressed in his best. I'm not."
Jesus wanted to be effective in his assigned mission. And to do so, he had to make sure that people only paid attention to one thing: his teachings.
You can be the best-dressed man or most fashionable woman in the world, but if you don't see yourself through the lens that God sees you through, you'll be ineffective in the mission that He has specifically for YOU.
I had to learn that the hard way. My physical appearance said, "She's very confident," but on the inside, I was screaming to be loved ... I was screaming for acceptance.
Psalms 139:14 says, "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."
Improving your physical appearance will not win you favor with God. In fact, nothing you do will win you favor with God because you can't earn His love. He gives it to you freely, and all He asks for in return is your heart.
If someone gave you a brand-new Mercedes G-Class SUV (in mystic blue 🙌), you would treat that beautiful masterpiece with care, right?
Well, you're a beautiful masterpiece — dark spots, blemishes, weight, hair (or lack of), height, and all. Treat yourself with care by taking pride in your appearance.
Own every characteristic that makes you, you, because you're a reflection of God who created you in His image.
Wow! Do you understand how amazing you are?
I'll say it again. You’re a reflection of God who created you in His image. And at the end of the day, it's the person underneath that matters the most.
Man looks at our outward appearance, but God (thankfully) looks at our heart :).
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You were born to do great things. Don't let your insecurities hold you back, k?