What Kind of Friend Are You?

I used to use the word "friend" very freely. Now I know everyone is not your friend.

Every year, I designed a collection for my alma mater's Spring fashion show. The day of the show, my junior year, I finished the last piece I was working on around 3 pm. The show was scheduled to start at 7 pm, and I still had to drop the collection off at the venue and go home to change my clothes.

After changing, I rushed back to the show's venue and started unpacking the garment bag I dropped off earlier. A few seconds later, I realized I forgot one of my pieces in the sewing lab.

There was no way that I could prepare the models, leave, and then get back in time for the show. I was stressed.

Actually, that's an understatement—I was practically having an anxiety attack. This may sound corny, but the fashion shows were like the Suber Bowl for fashion majors.

Who could I call that would drop everything to help me? I started gasping for air. And then one person came to mind ... my friend Steve. So I called him and verbally vomited on him with my problem.

He cut me off and said, "Maggie, I'm already on my way there."

You see, I was reluctant to call Steve because he was busy with an event on campus for his fraternity. He was the only one I knew would help me though.

And without any hesitation, he left his frat event and hopped on his skateboard to save my night. That was the moment I knew that Steve was the definition of a true friend.

That was also the moment I knew I wasn't.

"Do to others as you would have them do to you." — Luke 6:31

A few years ago, someone asked me if I was stranded in the middle of the night who would I call? Better yet, who would call me?

I was silent for a while. I came up with at least five people who I would call, but I couldn't think of one person who would call me.

In my BRB years (be right back Christ ✌️), I wasn't a very good friend. I don't think I was a bad person or anything, but I was pretty selfish at times.

I would never say no to a friend in need, but I also wouldn't offer my assistance unless I was asked. And if I did ask, it wasn’t because I really wanted to help, it was because I felt obligated to do so.

Although I often called people my "friends," I was far from the kind of friend that God wants us to be.

I love the story of David and Jonathan in the Bible. Saul was the first king of Israel and Jonathan was his son. Jonathan was next in line to the throne of Israel, but God already called David to be the next king.

Even though Jonathan knew that David would be the next king, he befriended him. He could’ve let his father kill him, but instead, he helped him escape.

Jonathan was loyal to David and put himself at risk to help him. He was a true friend.

I felt like Humpty Dumpty—broken—when I realized that no one would call me in an emergency. No one (that I could think of) trusted me to be there for them because I was so self-centered.

Only God could fix the mess of the person who I had become.

So, I prayed and asked God to help me become a good friend … a loyal and trusted friend like Jonathan and my bro Steve. And slowly but surely, He’s helped me (and is still helping me).

I had many fake friends over the years and wanted a solid group of good friends too, but I had to first become a good friend.

One of the most important things that you could do, next to giving your life to God, is joining Him in His work. Are you praying for things but not putting in the effort to become the kind of person who can receive the things you're praying for?

Have faith, yes, but then do your part.

What kind of friend are you? You may or may not have always been a good friend, but God can mold you into a great friend.

"And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns." — Philippians 1:6

May God's Word be a continual source of hope and truth for your soul :).

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You were born to do great things.

- Mags


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