Your Ego is Not Your Friend.

Have you ever posted (what you thought to be) an amazing Facebook, IG, or Twitter status?

You sat back and smiled as you waited for the likes, comments, and retweets to roll in. You saw a notification and got excited. You clicked it, and your mood instantly changed—someone corrected your grammar.

No one likes an arrogant person.

During my first year and a half of living in New York City, I used to go on interviews almost every week. I would always get the interview because of my design portfolio, but no one would hire me.

I couldn't stand it. It was frustrating—you know—getting those rejection emails over and over. And over again.

One day, I had an interview for a technical design position. I wasn't familiar with the position, but I thought I would give it a try since no one else would hire me.

I wasn't prepared.

The technical design position required specification sheets or "specs" to be made. A specification sheet contains all the measurements of a garment. Sounds simple enough, right?


The interviewer wanted to test my technical design knowledge. She handed me a shirt and asked me to "spec" it. There were about 25 measurements that I had to fill in, and she went over every single one of them.

I knew I should've taken notes, but my big ego wouldn't let me. I thought taking notes would make me look bad, so I tried to memorize everything she was saying.

My memory always served me well in the past, but as I started to fill in the spec sheet, I realized I didn't remember half of what the interviewer went over. I didn’t get hired.

Take notes ... always take notes.

When we were kids, we were taught in school to "show and tell." We learned how to confidently brag—I mean—talk about ourselves, our possessions, and our accomplishments.

But there's a difference between being confident and being prideful. Your ego can hold you back from learning, growing, and being the best that you can be.

Your ego is the enemy.

"For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those

who humble themselves will be exalted.” - Luke 14:11

It's hard to be humble when you have a big ego. Our ego is fueled by our self-centered ambitions, and it's our responsibility to keep it in check.

God orchestrates things in our lives so that people can see Him for who He really is and give Him all the honor, glory, and praise. But when we step in the way and follow our own desires and will instead of His, we interrupt His perfect plan for our lives.

There's a reason Jesus told the disciples in Luke 9:23, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me." Putting aside your will to follow God's is a daily walk.

To me, ego stands for edging God out. If you believe you've mastered life, the second you believe that, you're right, and you've blocked the opportunity to allow God to order your steps.

You've edged God out.

We kick down walls to have a relationship with "successful" people who are limited in their thinking. But there's no limit to God. He's all-knowledgeable, all-powerful, and always available.

I often refer to the story of how God provided manna for the Israelites in Exodus 16. He only allowed them to gather enough for the day so that they could learn to trust him daily.

You don't have to do everything on your own. God is a gentleman who wants to remove the heavy load from you. Believe me, He can handle it.

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.

Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart,

and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

- Matthew 11:30

Put aside your ego, humble yourself, and turn to God daily for strength. Your ego may deceive you into thinking "you've got this," but don't trust your ego, trust God.

Your ego is not your friend, God is.

A great way to practice humility is to spend time each day in prayer acknowledging and thanking God for who He is.

What's one thing you can do today to keep your ego in check? As always, I'd love to hear from you. Head on over to the discussion page, and I look forward to chatting with you.

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You were born to do great things. Don't let your ego get in the way.

- Mags

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