I often hear people say, "Today was a bad day," but I've learned that we don't have to allow things to affect our entire day.
Whether we admit it or not, we all seek validation. We want to be liked and want to be loved. We want to feel appreciated and we want to feel like we matter.
When I first started Forholy, I developed a discipline to write my posts on Sunday nights. Everyone knows not to call or text me on Sunday nights. My mom is the only exception, and I only take her phone calls because I like to read my finished posts to her.
She's one of the few people I trust to give me honest feedback. And after I read my messages to her, I can always tell by her response whether she enjoyed it or thinks it can be better.
Her opinion matters to me.
I developed a good system. If my mom tells me she loves my message, I feel confident to go ahead and post it. If she doesn't sound so enthused about it, I work on it a little more.
This system worked up until the beginning of the year when my mom's schedule no longer aligned with mine. Not having my mom to review my blog posts made me realize how dependent I was on her.
Mommy is only a phone call away, but she has her own life. Friends are around, but they aren't always available. Spiritual mentors? Currently non-existent.
Whether people are around to validate me or not, I still have to show up. So who do I turn to? I realized that God is the only One I can always turn to in any given situation.
People are often going to let us down, but God is consistent. He and His Word are always here when friends and family aren't.
"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble." - Psalms 46:1
Last week, a friend did something that bothered me. I knew he didn't mean to do it, but my mind went crazy with all these negative thoughts.
After I talked to my friend about it, he told me I had a very good "poker face" because I didn't look bothered at all. The truth is, I decided that I wasn't going to let that situation affect my day.
When things happen, we can immediately react or choose how we want to respond. You can either defeat your problems with God or let your problems defeat you.
I don't know about you, but I take Philippians 4:6-7 seriously when it says to be anxious about nothing, pray to God with thanksgiving, and His peace will guard our hearts and minds.
I simply don't allow things to affect the outcome of my entire day.
If I don't have someone to review my blog post, I pray for clarity of mind and do my best to edit it and move on. If a friend, co-worker, or family member does something to bother me, I either address it or let it go.
I once heard someone say, "You can always judge a man by the size of the obstacle it takes to defeat him."
"Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.” - Deuteronomy 31:6
If you're into affirmations (and even if you're not), here's one that you can help you:
I will not allow things to defeat me because God is greater than my problems and He is always with me ✊.
Give your worries to God and move forward. People will let you down, but you can decide how you want to respond.
When things happen, what you do next is your choice. How will you show up?
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You were born to do great things. Keep showing up.