The Best Friend There is.

Updated: Sep 17, 2019


"One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. " - Proverbs 18:24


I never understood how people could just walk out of your life as if you never existed, but now I know that some friends are only seasonal.

There was a situation that happened to me about six years ago, and it wounded me deeply.

One evening, I met up with an old friend, McKenzie (not her real name) to see how she was doing and to share some of the things I was working on. When we were kids, Mckenzie and I had similar dreams and interests so I was hoping she'd want to work together.

And she did!!!

I was excited because we were very close growing up—like sisters. I didn't have many friends like her throughout my lifetime, so my heart was happy knowing she'd be a part of my life again.

I left her that evening with a verbal agreement that we would start building our dreams together. Together ... I liked that word.

About an hour later, I got a text message from one of my closest friends at the time, Anna—not her real name either. Anna was the one who gave me Mckenzie's number so I could reconnect with her.

Anna told me that Mckenzie shared with her some of the things she and I talked about that evening.

"You don't even care about Mckenzie," she insisted. Do you know that she's been on medical leave? She's sick and all you care about is yourself."

"No, I didn't know she was sick," I responded. "But why would you even think that I don't care about her? She was like my sister growing up ... she was my best friend."

After a few more text exchanges, we stopped chatting.

I was wounded by Anna's text messages. Why is she questioning my character? Anna knew the real me, so I was very surprised that she was saying so many hurtful things that weren't true.

After talking to her, though, I started to question myself and my motives. Did I really not care about Mckenzie? I didn't even know she was sick. Maybe Anna was right.

I didn't hear from Mckenzie the next morning, so I called her to see if everything was okay. She explained to me that she's been sick and that she doesn't think now is the best time for her to start working on some new things.

I told her that was perfectly fine, and that I just wanted us to be good friends again. I suggested that we meet up every so often for brunch and stay in touch. And she agreed.

When we got off the phone, I knew deep down inside that Mckenzie and I would never be friends again. Anna said a lot of negative things about me to her, and she trusted her.

I went to the bathroom at work and cried because I was wounded ... deeply wounded.

Mckenzie eventually recovered from her sickness, and she and Anna become the best of friends. But they never spoke to me again.

Sometimes I think back to that situation, and it still doesn't make any sense to me. One thing I've learned over the last six years, though, is that situations reveal the true character of people.

I'm the first one to admit that I haven't always been the best person or the best friend to others, but by the grace of God, I'm a better person today than I was yesterday.

"One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. " - Proverbs 18:24

I've been meditating on that scripture lately, and two thoughts came to me:

1. You can have a lot of "friends" but you only need to have a couple of close friends.

If you were stranded in the middle of the night, who would you call? Or better yet, who would call you?

You only need to have a couple of people, maybe even one person, who you can confide in. It should be someone who you know without a doubt will be there for you, pray for you, support you, and would never turn their back on you even if he/she doesn't agree with your choices.

And if by some chance that person does turn his/her back on you because we are fallible people, your first call should always be to God.

2. Change often forces people to look in the mirror at themselves.

When you start to make positive changes in your life, your actions inevitably make those around you think about their own lives. The reality is they either decide to grow with you or away from you.

Friends come and go, but there's one friend who will never leave you or desert you. His name is Jesus, and He's the only one who can completely heal all of your wounds.

When people "go ghost" on you, give yourself some time to deal with the change, pray for that person and your strength, and keep moving forward in Christ Jesus. He's the best friend there is.

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- Mags